For Some, Retirement Brings Grief

With four days left at work, I find myself oscillating between excitement, trepidation and a wee bit of fear of the unknown. Surprisingly, there is a slight sense of loss, as I start racking up the “lasts”… last board meeting, last budget meeting, last happy hour meeting with colleague and my team. It occurred to me that this sense of grief must not be uncommon and it is interesting similar to how one feels anytime one loses someone or something dear to them.

Best I can tell with my limited experience, retirement is a life transition process and not a single event. It is not an end so much as it is a phase change. As is the case with any other major life transitions, retirement requires that you adapt and grow. Keeping this in mind makes me feel better and almost normal – Yay!!

I am curious how Wally and I will adapt and grow. Hoping I won’t feel like putting a pillow over his head while he sleeps after a few months! Yikes, it could be the other way around ?? But seriously, what style or path will  we take – Honeymooners, Routiners or Relaxers???

Honeymooners feel and act as though they are on an indefinite vacation. They are happy with their decision to retire and throw themselves whole-heartedly into leisure activities that they have always wanted to undertake but never before had the time to do. They may take up new hobbies and interests or become world travelers who seek to visit all the places they have heard about in the past.
Routiners are typically ambivalent about retirement. While they may enjoy the prospect of not working anymore, they find the lack of structure in their lives to be intimidating. These people find ways to create a substitute daily routine and structure for themselves and then go about the process of sticking to that new routine. They may immerse themselves in new activities and interests, but there will be an element of “keeping busy” to these involvements.
Relaxers seek a path of less activity and more rest and relaxation. These people may have felt burned out from years of working or generally exhausted from their previously busy schedules. Their first order of business for retirement then is to rest and recharge. Relaxers generally do not remain relaxed and laid back for the duration of their retirements. As they get used to retirement and have had time to recharge themselves they will typically seek out new activities and commitments.

I suspect there will be phases of all three of these styles as we transition into retirement and I am here to tell you that I am committed to finding out more, so stay tuned!!

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Home Improvements…Part 2

The Road House remodel continues. First, we took out the oh so stylish couch, recliner and dog.

Poor Bentley, doesn’t he look worried!! One might argue, the furniture looks like brand new. Well yes, it sure does and it would look amazing in your grandmothers house, so let her know it is for sale!

We took the coach to Western Interiors in Turner Oregon to have all the interior flooring replaced.

We choose Western Interiors as they have loads of experience with RV floors as well as sticks and brick houses. Goodbye bland carpet and linoleum!

Four days later, they were done so let’s go inside and have a look see what they did….

TA-DA….doesn’t it look amazing. Carlos at Western Interiors did an great job. Wally and I were totally awestruck when we walk in and saw the new flooring.

I know it looks like real hardwood but it is actually IVCUS Moduleo eastern hickory luxury vinyl planks. This was a great choice for our coach as it is water proof and practically dog proof (that’s as important as asthesthics for us), will flex with the movement of the RV, has lifetime warranty and requires no waxing – just a simple damp mopping. WOO-HOO, what more could a gal want.

With the amazing looking new floors, we now need a new couch and are heading down to Perch Furniture to order a custom built, super stylish, black leather couch. It will take 8-12 weeks to build so we might have to hit the road with out the couch but the factory is in LA and they will ship it to wherever we are. The folks at Perch were super helpful and so jazzed that one of their sofas is going in a RV. Who knows maybe we will start a trend in stylish RV furniture 🙂

Stay tuned, there are more mods happening!